Guess who is coming to our house?
SANTA
We are excited, we sat on his lap at Chick~fil~a, we sat on his lap at ballet, we told him we want a toy Santa and our two front teeth. We talk about him, we talk to him, we sing about him, and we can’t wait for him to visit our house!
Every time this season rolls around I hold me breath. I hold it in anticipation of some self-righteous child or adult spoiling my child’s belief in Santa. Yes, we let our children believe in Santa, actually we tell them all about Santa. How he is a great guy who delivers presents, how if they want they can write a letter to him asking for gifts. We watch movies, we sing songs, we color pictures, we get excited. We talk about how Santa delivers presents after they go to sleep on Christmas eve. I listen to their stories and anticipation, I see the joy in their faces. {At our house Santa only delivers 3 presents per child, the rest of their presents come from us. And their Santa gifts are not always what they ask for, we try, but cannot always deliver}
Oh sure I know that some people don’t think about it, they don’t have little ones, and they slip up and say something that will make my child question Santa and his existence. Those people I don’t mind. I don’t even mind the ones that are relaxed about it “Santa, we just never did it…” they don’t bug me either, mainly because they don’t care what we do with our children and Santa. But the self-righteous ones, they wear me out.
“What you actually TELL your kids there is a Santa?” “you lie to their faces?” “how can you tell them those lies?” “I can’t believe some parents will actually go to all that effort…” “Christmas is all about Jesus {really so what do you do to make it ALL ABOUT JESUS?} “We do NOT lie to our kids, we tell them the truth…” {The truth about everything I want to ask???} “I never thought YOU would do that to your kids…” Sometimes it gets ugly.
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We believed in Santa, Keith’s family did not. The Christmas before we were engaged, we had a discussion on Santa and wether or not we would tell our non-existent future children, or wether or not we would encourage them to believe, or if we would flat-out tell them there is no such thing.
In high school we had to write a paper for my Senior Bible Class, I don’t remember the name of the paper, just that we had to argue for or against the belief in Santa and how that belief will affect the child’s future belief in God. I know I used myself as an example. As a child I believed in Santa, but as I grew in wisdom I realized/learned/observed that there was in fact no magical elf. The same holds true with my knowledge of Jesus, and God. As a child I believed in Jesus, and as I grew in wisdom I realized/learned/observed that God did send his one and only son just so his blood could cover my sins. I did not stop believing in Jesus because I stopped believing in Santa. In fact my growth in Jesus grew after I stopped believing in Santa.
Three of our 6 children believe, three have outgrown their belief. 4th grade usually is the year, or it has been for the big kids… That means that this year J will realize the truth. Do I worry about the kids who no longer believe that they will be come disenchanted with Jesus? No I do not.
They realize that Santa is a fun tradition, a happy story a sweet little fun holiday time thing to do.
While I tell my children all about Santa, I tell them the real reason we celebrate Christmas, I tell them the amazing news that God sent his only Son to be born of a virgin that he was perfect, sinless, holy and He is GOD, He is the reason for the season. With out God’s first gift there would be no Christmas. Because only perfect people get into heaven and we are not perfect, we are sinful and rotten, but the blood of Jesus covers our sin, so we can go to heaven one day if we accept that gift of Jesus. I tell them THAT is the real reason we celebrate Christmas.
In our family those are 2 different things Jesus birth and Santa’s visit. Christmas Eve we celebrate Jesus birth, we go to church and listen to the Christmas story {the kids who are in Church every week hear the messages leading up to the birth of Christ} We sing songs of praise and sing the Christmas Carols, we sing O Holy Night. We are thankful and blessed and we know it. Christmas day is the day Santa comes, it is about gifts and family and fun times!
Choosing to not believe in Santa, or telling your child there is no Santa, does not make you any better than anyone else. I am sure you have your reasons, and they are fine and justified. But hear me out, if your reason is to teach them “it is not all about Santa” than what are you doing the whole season, or year to show them it is not all about Santa? If your reason is to focus on Jesus, his birth, and the meaning of Christmas, what are you doing to show them that it is all about Jesus? Do you exchange gifts? Why? Do they know why? Do you have a tree? Why? Do they know why? I am actually curious because the people who are anti Santa don’t ever give me a reason, and the people who don’t actually care tell me just that.
So if you do not celebrate Christmas with Santa, then feel free to enjoy your holiday and I promise not to judge your parenting by this. But if you could do me a favor, don’t judge my parenting by this choice, and have your child not spoil it for the rest of the children I’d appreciate it. As my children quit believing I simply asked them not to spoil it for others.
How old were you when you quit believing?
How do you combine both Jesus birthday and Christmas?
Go hug your kids they need your love. Don’t let the holiday rush keep you from enjoying the season!
jen